Documenting my adventures in teaching, getting to know them as individuals - because my kids are people, not test scores.
Alright guys, this shit got me heated.
So today as I was getting ready for school, I get a call from my youngest sister’s elementary school clinic. My sister gets on the phone and tells me she is sitting out of class because her skirt is too short. “You need to bring me one that goes down to my knees, they said,” is what she told me.
Quick recap: My sister is eleven years old, in fifth grade, and has some mental and physical disabilities. She’s the tallest girl in her class. Also, the dress code states her skirt must be down to her fingertips, not her knees.
When I get there, I insisted I see her instead of just dropping her stuff off. I was not suprised to find her with a skirt obviously within the rules of the dress code. I asked her what class she was missing and she told me math. She’d been sitting out for atleast twenty or thirty minutes while she waited for me to come.
She only learns things at about a third of the pace as everyone else in her class. Even missing this short amount of time means missing a lot of information for her. Just to recap: she has to sit out of class because of the length of her skirt. She can’t even just sit in her classroom while she waits for me, because apparently that’s too distracting. To whom, you ask? I can’t really tell you. Are ten year old boys, fifth grade boys already old enough to be sexualizing her to the point that they were going so insane with horniness that they had to whisk her away until she could put on something ‘decent’.
So not only are the sexualizing a fifth grader, they are giving her different rules for the dress code based on her height and making her miss valuable class time. This bullshit needs to stop. Eleven goddamn years old and she’s already being taught her body isn’t her own anymore, that she’s being too provocative if she wears a skirt to the same standard as all the other short, skinny girls in her class just because she looks older.
As a P.S., I would like to point out that she is already bullied because of her disabilities. Pulling her out of class and making her change is even more of an embarrassment, and only leads to more teasing.
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- PTSD Forum: Self Care
- ED Recovery: Self Soothing Techniques
- Addiction Recovery Coping Skills
- 99 Coping Skills: Things to do Instead of Cutting
- Invisible Disabilities Association of Canada: Coping Skills
Meditation & Relaxation:
- Tips to Start Meditating
- 8 Ways to Make Meditation Easy and Fun
- 18 Minute Guided Meditation: Blissful Deep Relaxation
- 1 Hour Universal Mind Meditation
- Guided Meditation for Sleep and Good Dreams
- Guided Meditation and Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- 1 Hour of Nature Sounds
- 1 Hour Rain
- Foundations in Flow Yoga Class
- Heart Opening 30min Yoga Class
- 10min Shoulder Yoga Routine
- 9min Yoga Breathing Exercise (Pranayama)
- Kundalini Yoga Breathing Exercises (3 min)
- Make Origami
- DIY Home Spa
- Nail Art Tutorials
- Chevron Friendship Bracelets
- Glitter Jars
- Learn to Crochet
- Learn to Knit
- Turn an Old Shirt into a Tote
- Easy Sugar Cookies (Vegan recipe here)
- Garland Decorations
- email from a student within grade program: my mom said u seam like a lovley teacher and a goofy 1 I I said yes u are u are a awesome teacher
I’ve taught in both the North and South, which left me fascinated by how much region can impact the way a student address a teacher, but this was just incredibly eye-opening.
Here, in southwest Florida in a high poverty school, teachers are mostly referred to as “Miss” or “Mister” only, no name. It aggravates some teachers, but if you grew up in this population, you are used to it. Like this points out, I think it comes from diverse populations being raised in subservient roles for so long.
We just went over the vocabulary for a couple chapters of the Hunger Games in 8th grade. One of my kids really likes the word “insurmountable”.
Her way of celebrating this word is to sing it over and over again to herself in a chipmunk voice.
- : :going over spelling words::
- me: "Membrane". Does anyone know what that means?
- 6th grader: A nimrod?
Friend: do you get sick a lot?
Me: not really? You mean like the flu or something?
Friend: no like nausea, or a headache?
Me: is that what you classify as “sick”!!??
Me: I live with that and more everyday of my life.
Friend: you look fine though. If I have a headache I stay home, or if I feel sick I refuse to talk to anyone. You are so calm.
Me: that’s why it’s ‘invisible’